They say opposites attract

DeerMadness · Dec 9, 2018

But by 10 years or so of marriage the opposing views keep harmony going ?
I better stop here (eyes roll).
Come on Jager and chime on in...This thread will flop if you are too scared your wife will read guys, so just let your sack drop and do it.
No, I'm not leaving her so don't worry. My Dad always said when he got mad he went for a walk.
So do you walk ?
Get a stiff drink ?
Be grumpy ?
Kick the dog ?
Go fishing by yourself or buddies ?
Counseling ?

feddoc · Dec 9, 2018

LAST EDITED ON Dec-09-18 AT 09:47PM (MST)[p]20 years together last month, almost 18 married. We think alike on a lot of things, mainly the commitment required to keep things going. We each do what we gotta do, and do so knowing we made the right choice in a spouse.
If we get mad, we work it out so neither feels they won or lost, but, we each feel a bit better about what we decided.

?Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. "

Wiszard · Dec 9, 2018

That's a tough one. Gotta go... I hear her calling me.

Cancer doesn't discriminate...don't take your good health for granted because it can be gone in a heartbeat. Please go back and read the last line. This time really understand what it says.

Phantom Hunter · Dec 9, 2018

33 years and counting. Yep we sometimes piss each other off or hurt the others feelings but we put our commitment to each other and the Lord above all else. I do find it best to go fishing for a few hours now and then

eelgrass · Dec 10, 2018

51 years together. My wife says I'm lazy and I have no drive. It kind of upsets me and if I could find someone to help me move out, I would. I even threatened her with divorce. She said she'd pay for it. I almost did it but then a rerun of Gunsmoke came on the TV and I got sidetracked.

HIcountryman · Dec 10, 2018

11 years together... dont kick the Dog! Sometimes he s the only thing keeping us together! We meet hugging the dog who is almosst 15 yrs! What ll happen after he s gone?!

We better get a puppy for Christmas

DeerHunter53 · Dec 10, 2018

43 years and counting, We argue over little things as we have been together since high school.

She is a good wife but I don't know how in the hell we are going to get along when I retire.

I have taken up Gold panning, Hunting, fishing, golf, 4 wheeling and anything else that will keep me out of the house.

I told her once I retire I am going to stay up hunting from August to November. She asked what am I going to do when you are gone. I said you can come with me, "LOL" or stay at home your choice.

feddoc · Dec 10, 2018

Dang it Wisz, I told her to quit calling you.
I dont know how she got your number.

>That's a tough one. Gotta go...
>I hear her calling me.
>
>
>Cancer doesn't discriminate...don't take your good
>health for granted because it
>can be gone in a
>heartbeat. Please go back and
>read the last line. This
>time really understand what it
>says.

?Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. "

eelgrass · Dec 10, 2018

DeerHunter53, here's a hint about retirement. When I retired I kind of got bored at times, and one day I decided to rearrange the spice cabinet. I put all the spices in alphabetic order. My wife came home and threw a fit. That was a big no-no, I guess. She told me to stay in the garage and leave her house alone. Lesson learned.

projp · Dec 10, 2018

I am old enough to retire but haven't.
If I do retire my wife says that I will still have to leave the house every day and come back before dark....
I think it is a good plan.

Phantom Hunter · Dec 10, 2018

I am in the same boat, been eligible to retire for 5 years. Wife does not want me underfoot messing up her routine. Going to retire soon and just go fish or ride my horse or hunt or whatever just to stay out from underfoot!

DeerMadness · Dec 10, 2018

Fun and interesting comments. I have no plans for divorce , I just like to see how other people handle it. There are days when I shake my head, and many where I just want peace and quiet.
It does take a lot of effort to deal with someone when your ideas for things seem to be 180? all the time.
I'm getting to the point where I don't ask when there are decisions- I just make them. Maybe I want to have her agree more times than she does.

feddoc · Dec 10, 2018

I retired for the second and last time on 29 Dec of last year just to keep an eye on my wife's health. Best decision I ever made.

"Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. "

projp · Dec 10, 2018

A wise man once told me secret to a happy marriage.
It goes something like this...

Once a day you look your wife in the eyes and with all the sincerity you can muster you repeat the following phrase....

"I worship the the ground you walk on and I want to give you money"

So far the results have been mixed.

OutdoorWriter · Dec 10, 2018

LAST EDITED ON Dec-10-18 AT 02:20PM (MST)[p]Well, Ellen and I just celebrated 10 happy years of bliss in Oct. which isn't too bad since we have actually been married for 56 years.;-)

Although I officially retired from the writing game three months ago, I never really worked as in like leaving the house. So when my SO retired about 10 years ago, we have had to co-exist at home day and night. Both of us now have some health issues, so we spend a lot of time consoling each other.

Fortunately, I had converted one of the bedrooms into her personal space/TV room quite a few years ago. So I have my big flat screen in the family room and she has one in her TV room, along with a her computer desk and two leather recliners. During the day I spend most of it in my office (a converted 2-car garage) where my computers are or in my workshop playing with wood.

We've never really had any major conflicts other than the little petty arguments on occasion. And she has never said a word whenever I decided to take off to hunt or fish, even when our three kids were tiny tots in the 60s.

I make most of the major decisions such as should we go to war with Russia or China, and she makes all the minor ones like whether to buy a new house or car, etc. I do manage the money, however, because she wants no part of it.

I just turned 77 last month and don't expect to be around too many more years. I've had some grand experiences and got to fish or hunt in 40 states, 11 Can. provinces, Mexico, Africa and New Zealand.

So I'll never complain about the gal I live with or regret the life I've had. It's been a fruitful gig!

TONY MANDILE

How To Hunt Coues Deer

Blank · Dec 10, 2018

Can't complain too bad. Married 40 years this past April, and still going strong. Give her some space and she gives me mine, spend about 50% of the time together in the RV or UTV, and traveling around. We both retired two years ago and love it.

When I get her really pissed, she just says "Why don't you go hunting?" That really upsets my hunting partner; when he upsets his wife, she tells him to stay home and be miserable together!!!

When she gets me really pissed, I just go out and work on cars, or clean and organize my shop until it passes. I have a really clean and organized shop!!!

DeerMadness · Dec 10, 2018

Well done sir ! Lol

nontypical · Dec 10, 2018

We usually just get over it. Sometimes we don't talk for a few days.

Wakin · Dec 10, 2018

All - Take a hard look at why you got together in the first place. We celebrated our 33rd last June. Lots of ups/downs, a few nights in separate rooms (even a motel once in a while) but really great especially the last few years.

We are young 50 yr olds & empty nesters, Aug 4/5 she & I were hanging trail cams for the archery hunt. Aug 7th she never woke up.

Realize what really matters in life & always let them know you love them. I can take a little comfort knowing our last words to each other were "I love you". Everything else is a nightmare & this holiday season isn't helping at all. I love hunting as much as anyone on this site but have had no desire. I'm hoping the passion comes back.

33 mostly great years, 3 awesome kids - thank you baby. I miss you

Tristate · Dec 10, 2018

LAST EDITED ON Dec-10-18 AT 04:14PM (MST)[p]Hell yes opposites attract. One look at my family will tell you that. I am butt ugly but I can spot a Muley ear wiggle in the weeds from two miles away. My wife is smoking hot and blind as a bat so the opposite rule definitely worked in my favor.

feddoc · Dec 10, 2018

Wakin, That's a tough thing to overcome. I almost lost my wife after a heart attack (I still have regrets that I didn't notice her sooner) and a week later her being declared brain dead. God smile on me that next morning when she woke up. She still has memory problems and gets tired easily. That's who she is now, and for the foreseeable future. But, I learned to never, ever take things like a marriage for granted.

I know that no words from any of us will ease your pain. Perhaps your situation will cause a few others here to not take things for granted.

doc

>All - Take a hard look
>at why you got together
>in the first place. We
>celebrated our 33rd last June.
>Lots of ups/downs, a few
>nights in separate rooms (even
>a motel once in a
>while) but really great especially
>the last few years.
>
>We are young 50 yr olds
>& empty nesters, Aug 4/5
>she & I were hanging
>trail cams for the archery
>hunt. Aug 7th she never
>woke up.
>
>Realize what really matters in life
>& always let them know
>you love them. I can
>take a little comfort knowing
>our last words to each
>other were "I love you".
>Everything else is a nightmare
>& this holiday season isn't
>helping at all. I love
>hunting as much as anyone
>on this site but have
>had no desire. I'm hoping
>the passion comes back.
>
>33 mostly great years, 3 awesome
>kids - thank you baby.
>I miss you

?Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. "

DeerMadness · Dec 10, 2018

Feddoc,
I am impressed and that is how it should be. I really wasn't as cavalier as I sounded and times can be hard. I really wanted to hear heartfelt love along with some humour.My wife is ten times sweeter along with some annoying stuff so I doubt I would ever wish to leave her except to go on a few hikes a d fishing trips. I call them mountain therapy and when I return I will do anything she wants.?
Also I never kick or hit my furry friends and that was just sarcasm.

feddoc · Dec 10, 2018

Yup, I know you wouldn't kick the dogs.

Feddoc,
>I am impressed and that is
>how it should be. I
>really wasn't as cavalier as
>I sounded and times can
>be hard. I really wanted
>to hear heartfelt love along
>with some humour.My wife is
>ten times sweeter along with
>some annoying stuff so I
>doubt I would ever wish
>to leave her except to
>go on a few hikes
>a d fishing trips. I
>call them mountain therapy and
>when I return I will
>do anything she wants.?
>Also I never kick or hit
>my furry friends and that
>was just sarcasm.

?Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. "

Jagerdad · Dec 11, 2018

First: Wakin You are invited to come spend Christmas days in Our Home. Just send me a PM and we will figure out what is the best manner for you to accept and, get here.

This is the time to GIVE.

No, It is not time to give simply because it is nearing Christmas.

It is, at least to me, a 365 day OPPORTUNITY to GIVE.

Hugs
Jagerdad

( No Excuses Wakin ... Get busy

)

DeerMadness · Dec 11, 2018

Wakin,
I am so sorry. I waited to post this as it gave me some very emotional feelings. If there is anything I can do ket me know. I dont know what to say for such a loss. I had a coworker die this morning and just found out. I wish I never started this thread but I wasnt as serious as I sounded. I know life is fragile and I better take a hold of it more dearly than before.
Steve

Wakin · Dec 11, 2018

JagerDad - thank you

DM - I know your post was lighthearted & I really don't know why I responded as this is the first time I've mentioned my loss. I was the same way. I've learned how precious our women are, heaven knows they put up with a lot from us as well.

I have a great support system with family & good friends. I also have a very special woman who's been friends with us forever that makes sure I'm eating & staying on top of my health. Just a lot of firsts & November/December have really sucked - but I'll make it & I know there are people going through worse things than me.

My sweetheart the weekend before she passed

Jagerdad · Dec 11, 2018

Wakin ... You're making me have to come drag you here... Wait... On second thought...you appear to scrawny for my efforts...so I'll send my wife to drag you here. She would invite your Lady friend. Can she cook ...?... Lord knows mine can't.

Feddoc ... You know my address so you're invited so tell your wife "You're taking her and the 5th wheel to California". Who knows ... you both may decide to stay here... Crazier things have happened yeh know...!!!..look; California has all types. From folks Happy such as Eel to...+.. RELH ...to... unhappy Honda Trail 90 HORDER'z such as Homer... Plus, many others... I meant Utters.

Nuff Bafoonery : Simply scroll up and see the men whom Posted. I would be honored to have each and everyone join me at my Home. Hold on, Tri...Maybe I need to place a disclaimer upon your ugly mug....?...Maybe I should say you come to the front or back door, explain to me whom you are and IF you TRI has Elk tied up within the bed of your Truck, I sure shall pull you in and load you up on old fashioned Love, respect and Physical Hugs....(as long as I had not sipped to long on "Eel's fermented Fish juice Jug

"

DeerMadness · Dec 11, 2018

I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes, and I have lost a dearly loved wife, among other family . In a New York Minute.

Robert Service -

And hunger not of the belly kind, that's banished with bacon and beans,
But the gnawing hunger of lonely men for a home and all that it means;
For a fireside far from the cares that are, four walls and a roof above;
But oh! so cramful of cosy joy, and crowned with a woman's love?
A woman dearer than all the world, and true as Heaven is true?.

And I consider you a friend.
There may be a Bighorn Crags Hike this year. It can be 3 to 6 in a group. I hope to recover for it.
I wish you the best sir..

Jagerdad · Dec 11, 2018

DeerMadness

Was all of that for me or, have you forgotten the Joy's of Burl Ives Song or Jimmy Stewart finally discovering Christmas ?

That actually was one inquiry.

So much I could type yet, I desist...(dĭ-sĭstˈ, -zĭstˈ)

DeerMadness Get your azz to CONVINCE Feddoc to Embark upon the Travel I denoted.

Dear Elk, If you happen to slightly awaken in a Gunny Sack, bouncing on a 3 tire Truck from Texas, just go back asleep, Tri will deliver You.... +...You won't be Stuffed (Taxidermy)....Nor Fenced in...

Wakin
I'm not feeling your Love'n response. ie: PM me for my address and get your bun'z auh roll'n, Hug's are only a Stranger Today = a Life Long Friend, forever. I sure do Promise YOU; an adventure.

Everyone is so shy. Haven't any of you been invited on a blind Date (Not you Elk) or felt an URGE to simply "GO"..?

Many readers have my email and more so wize-snot jump in and push Wakin & DeerMadness + Feddoc to leave their lounge chair on a silly, un-explainable Journey here...Hug-auh-Rumpas where we sip Eels Fish-Oil-Cider.

DeerHunter53 · Dec 11, 2018

Oh we all complain because that is what we do, it sounds more manly!!!! The truth be told most of us wouldn't be in the situation we are without our lovely wives.

My wife and I have been together for so long, we were married right out of high school, had klds when we were still kids ourselves. Probably one of the only things we have done right. We were grandparents at 42 an 45 and have been empty nesters since.

We found common ground in the Warriors as we are both rabid fans and go to the games as season ticket holders. That is our date night.

Live for today as tomorrow may never come. My big problem now is her birthday is Monday and Christmas is next week. What the hell do I get her?

Any ideas? ( nice ones please ) LOL