Marriage vs. Hunting

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Lucky340

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Hey guys i'm in a bit of a bind. I'm getting married the end of this month and the ol fiancee is taking every waking minute of my time to plan the wedding, fun I know! I'm sure many of you know what i'm talking about. Anyway, I haven't and will not have anytime to go scouting for my tag. I have the general south eastern utah deer tag, if any of you could please help me out with any general areas, doesn't need to be specific, I would greatly appreciate, thanks all!....I could even use some good excuses to give my fianceee to get out there and scout if you experienced hunters have any.
 
Whats wrong with you getting married in hunting season?Do you realize that now will happen every year.
 
+1 to kilowatt & habitat!!!!
Tell her that spring time would be great...then you could do that outdoor wedding she always dreamt about! :)

Same goes with kids.....keep them out of Aug-Dec!!! :)
-223
 
+2, WTF, getting married in the fall
???. Wait "til spring, but after turkey season.

from the "Heartland of Wyoming"
 
Let me just preface my comments by saying that marriage and family are FAR more important than hunting in the grand scheme of things, but DUDE, you could plan things a little bit better to not interfere with your hunting!!

It may be far too late to move your wedding date, but I would at least consider a late winter, early spring wedding.

I planned my wedding and the birth of my 2 children (1 on the way in February) around hunting season, so I wouldn't have to worry about my wife being upset or feeling guilty for being gone on an important date. You do have control (for the most part) of the dates on these types of things, so why not make life easier on you?? :)
 
Its not to late to reschedule it might not go well now but man think of the relief for the years to follow. You just broke the unwritten rule, you plan everything in your control around hunting time just the way it is. I love my family to death dont get me wrong but man you are crippling yourself for life. Good luck with the wedding.
 
Dude, do NOT get married during hunting season. Get married during a leap year so you only have to celebrate your anniversary every four years. if you can pull that off you will be legendary.

Also for the excuse - Tell her that you are part of a native american tribe which requires you to harvest a deer scoring 180 or better to enter manhood and this requires much scouting.
 
If you are worrying about it now, it will get worse. I got married in Nov and my first son was born during the deer hunt.

But I am OK because I don't rifle hunt deer in Utah anymore and
we ran out of pheasants here.

If my anniversary falls during a hunt, my wife is very understanding. Just ask her if its going to be a problem??

I will bet you a steak dinner there is no way in @#$ she is going to change the date.
 
Just think.......every year FOREVER more, you can come on here and ask for advice about the area you drew......'cuz you will NEVER be able to go anywhere to scout, let alone hunt!

No anniversaries in the Fall.
No birthdays in the Fall.
No graduations in the Fall.
No moving, remodeling, surgeries, opera events, bail hearings, jury duty,.......or ANYTHING else that can be put off 'till Spring.

Thanksgiving Day is the only exception and I have screwed a few of those up also.

Son, didn't your daddy teach you nothin'?
 
I think you need to just tell her the truth.... you'd rather be hunting than getting married. That will solve it. Then you can hunt. Simple, isn't it?
 
My boss once told me don't do anything in the first 90 days of your marriage that you don't want to end up doing for the rest of your life....and vice versus....so if you wanna hunt in the future man you better let her know how much it means to you and go scouting and hunting....best piece of advice I can give you.
 
I had a friend make this mistake too. Got married on the first day of the goose hunt. Guess what we gave him for a wedding present? Yup, a box of shotgun shells, and I bet he still has the full box. And come to think of it, I haven't seen him since he got married. Fake epididimitis so you can back it up a month.
 
LAST EDITED ON Sep-12-08 AT 09:07PM (MST)[p]You guys all need to get a grip. Marriage and births of your children are WAY more important than any particular hunt. And the anniversaries and birthday celebrations that follow every year are ONE day out of a fall and winter full of hunting opportunities.

If hunting is as important to you as you're making it seem, you'll find plenty of other opportunities during the fall to get out and enjoy it.

If you can subtly sway things to a more opportune month, great. But you guys are making it sound like it's a cardinal sin.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, Lucky340. I hope you have a fantastic day!

Oh, and as far as deer in the SE unit, Fairview and 12 Mile canyons are always a good bet. Lots of pressure, but lots of deer too. Good luck!
 
Dude heres what i told my wife. Honey we can get married in Aug but its going to be really hard to say I Do from the top of the mountain. Love You but I'm going huntin. My youngest daughter's birthday is Aug 15th too close for comfort. My Granddaughter was born last year while I was elk hunting. Dude your stuck for life but good luck anyway. Marriage vs. Hunting there is no question Hunting I will be married longer then I can hunt
Good Luck and Great Memories
 
Say what you want but i also planned my wedding and the birth of my 2 daughters accordingly to avoid any conflicts with my fall hunting plans.I have been married 19 years next april and it has worked out great.
 
LAST EDITED ON Sep-12-08 AT 10:25PM (MST)[p]Sureshot.....we can joke about this all we want, but I guarantee you that it is a REAL issue. There is no "get a grip" about it.

If basic planning can avoid the situation altogether....why not do it?

After about 5 years, when the shine wears thin, this chit becomes a thorn that creates serious marital problems.

Sane people have avoided it for a hundred years simply by not going there in the first place.

I will admit to marrying one of my wives in late December, but that was due to a testosterone surge, coupled with an IRS tax break. Deadly combination.
 
I completely understand your dilema! My wifes birthday-Sept 13, my anniversary-Sept 19, my oldest daughters birthday-Oct 24, my 5th childs due date-Sept 18. To paraphrase swbuckmaster (I think), hunting is a year round commitment. Really there's something to hunt/scout pretty much all year long so don't structure one of the most significant days of your life (trust me it is) around your freaking hunting schedule. I live, eat, breathe, sleep, hunting! It's practically all I think about and want to do, but come on. I'll be celebrating 11 years next week (when the elk are in full rut) and thinking how worth it my marriage is. Has it been tough-you bet! Do I hunt/scout as much as I once did-not even! Do I get jealous when my single or divorced friends do what ever they want when they want-yup! Was I humbled when I took my wife shooting high powered rifles for her first time and she put 10 shots in a 1 inch circle at 100 yards-holy crap yes! Was I the proudest daddy on the planet when my oldest daughter popped her first balloon at 15 feet with a bow when she was 3-hell yeah! Do I count down the days until Friday when I can take my FAMILY up parly's canyon to shoot the 3-d archery course-absolutely! What kind of legacy do you want to leave? Bro. it's worth it! Everything good in my life right now can be attributed in one way or another to my wife and marriage. Good luck!
Now as for a place to checkout on a general south east tag. If you're willing to travel, go check out the Blue mountains just west of Monticello and Blanding. This range boarders the once famous San Juan unit and although the deer numbers aren't what they once were (due to the proliferation of elk and poor management) the genetics, good summer and winter range, are solid. There's always some dandy bucks taken down there. I've archery hunted and muzzleloader hunted down there for around 15 years now and I've seen and killed some pretty nice bucks. I've only rifle hunted there once (the year I got married) with no success, but that depends on how you judge success. No deer, but quality time on a great adventure at a new chapter in my life with my (then) new bride-priceless!
 
My annivesary is on Feb. 29 and it does work out great.

Family does come first without a doubt, but avoiding possible conflict is very valid. I do not have any birthdays in the fall (by design) and my anniversary also worked out so I am lucky. My hunting buddies are not so lucky and it does cause the occasional riff.

On an archery javilina hunt some years ago, I over heard my buddies wife ask my wife how I would react if I had to chose hunting or her. My wifes response was "I would never be stupid enough to ask". Well my answer would be her but, but that's probably why we are married, She repects my other loves enough to never make me choose!
 
Lucky, you gotta be real careful here because if you don't work it right, you might screw up the rest of your life in regards to hunting. Here's a message I posted in another thread a while back. -TONY

*****

The whole secret to having wives who are tolerant is similar to owning a new pair of shoes; you gotta break them in properly.

Just a little less than 47 years ago, my wife Ellen and I exchanged vows on an Oct. Sat. in front of the altar in Lodi, NJ. At the time, she was working as a recepionist in a beauty salon. Because she had already used up her vacation, she was able to get only one extra day off for our very short honeymoon at a nice resort in northern NJ. I, on the other hand, had no problem with getting a few days off whenever I wanted them.

Sooo...while she returned to work on Tues., I left with a friend for a 4-day deer hunt in NY's Adirondack Mts. That began my break-in period, which continued in earnest after we moved to AZ a few months later. Within two years, the "shoes" fit great.

Since then, I have missed anniversaries, birthdays and holidays on a regular basis without penalty. And that will continue this fall when my 45-yr. old son and I leave early Thanksgiving Day to pursue Coues deer in southern AZ. -TONY
 
Spring is for getting married! Fall is for going hunting. Sorry to hear that you're starting off, IMO, on the wrong foot! Good luck with that!

Joey
 
I had this very dilemma last year(Sept 8). I just had to lay down the law and tell the future wifey that, "Most guys have bachelor parties with strippers, I'm just lookin for a bachelor herd of bucks with velvet that hasn't yet been stripped." I suppose it didn't help that my hunt was going to be for 11 days with me getting back a day before the wedding was suppose to happen with some minor details still to be worked out.

As luck would have it, she must have spoken to the gods, because I got my buck on opening morning (velvet not stripped). Wedding problem diverted, but now she at least knows that I am not going to give in at every little bat of her eyes (as hard as that is sometimes).

And just remember...If you can somehow get her involved; she will be more likely to understand your passion and let you go or tag along(and you might be able to "Get out into the Woods" for your anniversaries instead of trying to get yourself "outta the woods" with the trouble from wifey). Just a thought.

~ERock
 
I have been married 10 yrs this yr on July 31st. We made a date of Aug 1st. to get married. Well a softball tournament came up on Aug 1st and we bumped up the wedding to July 31 and spent the next 3 days and 12 games all weekend on our honeymoon and we took 2nd in the tournament. That was the hottest tourny we played in. But my wife understood and even joined the team. We played for 5 yrs.

Now comes my B-day every year on Sept 25th. Well I am leaving on the 18th and will not be home till the 30th in time to take my wife up on her Oct 1st opener for her bull tag. My kids usually try to give me something before I leave or after I return from hunting. They are pretty cool about it. I believe it is a commitment and if your spouse hunts with or approves it, will make for a happier marriage.

Good luck with it and congrats.
 
LAST EDITED ON Sep-13-08 AT 07:15PM (MST)[p]Married in March, Kids in August, my B-day in august. I have gone every year August 5th since I was twelve to Olcot NY for King salmon. Since I got married I have not gone back due to conflicts. Same thing happened to a buddy about going to the mountains (camp) for the first day of buck season. Once you stop you can't get it back, so take that with a grain of salt, and be warned. I married a girl who does understand because I'm in the field a awful lot between hunting and fishing. Change if you can or grin and bear it forever. It does cause problems though. Good luck with marrige it's a blessing.
 
HAHA this is so funny. My Fiance asked me when do you wanna get marries? I told her that she could pick any date from Jan 1st-March 31st and from June 1st-July. I hunt spring bears in April and May. And only god knows what tags I will draw so August 1st thru Dec. has to be open to hunting. I was just upfront about it and she appreciated it. IMO you are starting off on the wrong foot if you are already worrying about if you can hunt or not.

Dave
 
We married on Nov.11. We spent probably 8 out of the first 10 years celebrating our anniversary in Alturas, CA hunting ducks and geese. We will be married 40 years this year.

Eel
 
Do you really have any say in the wedding? Do you want any? If you're just there for suport or to tell her what color napkins ring holders you want, tell her you have a cell phone recepction on the mountain.

I didn't plan any part of my wedding, it wasn't 'my' day, and I really didn't care how it looked or what the bridesmaids were wearing, or what food we ate... Just had to show up dressed. Personally I think thats how it should be anyway... that is unless you really want all that fluffy stuff? If so you're on your own. :)
 
Spring/summer are for getting married and having kids, but sometimes you just can't help it. Good luck!!

nrueh
 
this date will haunt you forever. trust me. good woman hard to come by ,but good hunt even harder. good luck on marriage hope she still lets you go when you get awesome tag that starts on your aniversery. hunting is a lifestyle.
 
Well thanks everyone for the help and advice.I know i'm in a bad spot with the timing of the marriage, but I'll try to ease this one over so it's not a huge problem. Thanks to you who helped me with the hunting areas. Good luck to all of you on your hunts!
 
LAST EDITED ON Sep-15-08 AT 12:20PM (MST)[p]My first daughter was born on Oct 21st and my 2nd daughter was born on Oct 20th.

I use to hunt the general rifle hunt every year.

I have since purchased a muzzleloader and now hunt in September. My wife has always supported me hunting, but I now know her tactics and won't be fooled again.
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Needless to say, I am much more careful now as August and September are considered "No Birth" zones. I like the muzzleloader season better anyway.

Good Luck!
 
Looks to me like you should have called yourself LUCKY69.
Your biggest trophy ever will be your wife!!!
If your wife is a good one, she will understand and might even join you on some of your hunts.
Congrats to both of you!!!
 
Get married on a off weekend during the hunt, no big deal. But read post 13 again and again. Put your foot down EARLY or you'll never get it back. Russ
 
Keis,
Let me know if you need some help on your math brotha-just remember the baby cooks in the oven for 9 months, so you gotta plan with that in mind :)

Just playin with ya-good to see ya here on MM.

Cory
 
The key isn't so much picking the right date as it is picking the right woman!! If she isn't understanding of your desire to hunt (or golf, or fix old cars, or whatever) now, don't be foolish enough to believe that she will be in the future....it will only get worse. Don't think for a second that you will "change her" over time. You won't.

I was married on November 10th. I missed my first anniversary (I was hunting in Canada), and have missed a number of others over the eight years I have been married. Never have heard a word about it other than the occassional "you owe me big time" said in good humor as she sends me on my way to hunt.

I try my best to take that "you owe me big time" to heart and make sure that her needs and desires are met as well or better than my own. If you have chosen your wife wisely she will understand and appreciate that and you won't have much trouble. If you don't think she will understand, you may want to reconsider before its too late.
 
I agree with outdoorwriter. It's time some of you guys better pull the zipper around to the front. Problem solved.
 
I ended up moving my wedding date back so that I could go whitetail hunting in Montana. I have had all my kids in the spring for that reason. Good Luck.
 
Stand tough brother. Once you lose control it's all downhill from there. And never let her be on top either. ;-)
 
Outdoorwriter has some sage advice. If your thinking either/or between wife or hunting, your marriage is already in trouble. Balance in all things. You make sure that hunting season is a good time for her and she'll likely recipricate. Want a new gun? Tell her, tell her what your thinking and take her to the city (off season) and spend about the same on a nice room, dinner, a couple of new outfits for her.... Fairs fair, and she'll support her in spending some serious time outdoors if you let her know you appreciate her as much as the hunt. As I think Outdoorwriter insinuated, invest in the marriage in the right way and soon the shoe will fit just right.
 

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