Tough Luck after good luck

antlerrick · Oct 21, 2004

My pregnant daughter who I posted a photo of a couple of weeks ago with her great Utah bull she harvested a month ago, just found out today that she is going to lose her unborn baby.
What a bad deal to go from harvesting a trophy bull, and being on top of the world, to finding out that the baby you have been carrying for almost 5 months will soon be no more....she appreciated all your comments on her bull..

Thanks to all!
Rick

A bad day hunting is better than a Good Day at Work!!

Chef · Oct 21, 2004

I'm sorry to hear of the bad news. My deepest condolences go out to her and your families. Things like this happen. All you can do is be as supportive as you can be and hope for the best the next go around.

Regards,
Chef

"I Love Animals...They're Delicious!"

cpsandman · Oct 21, 2004

We almost lost our son right after he was born and it was hell and he made it. Can't imagine how your daughter feels losing her baby. Please give her my heartfelt sorrow for her loss. I also hope Grandpa is doing OK. Hopefully there are more children and grandchildren to come.

CPSANDMAN
"The Buck stops here...I hope!"

kingfish · Oct 22, 2004

I am so sorry to hear of your bad news..Tell your daughter her extended hunting family is praying for her and her family. Nobody knows why these things happen and maybe that's the hardest part of dealing with tragedy. Focus on the positive (as hard as that will be) and pray God will somehow shed some light on this in the future. Keep us posted on any changes please.

antlerrick · Oct 22, 2004

When these things happen, it really makes you look at your priorities. The big bull was awesome, but I would trade it in a heartbeat for that baby for my daughter. Guess sometimes these things happen to get us back to where we should be with our lives..
Rick
A bad day hunting is better than a Good Day at Work!!

Lien2 · Oct 22, 2004

My deepest sympathy to your daughter and your family. I once heard from an olympic athlete who just lost a race say "God just didn't want this to be, and I'm fine with that." I have always tried to remember those words when things don't go well for me and I'm wondering why it happened the way it did. Even though your situation and many that I have been through can't compare to losing a silly race. I put my trust in God to show me the way, he has the power, sometimes you don't know why it happened until many months down the road, but then it becomes clear this was in the plan the whole time.
Losing that baby has to be very tough, but don't lose faith. Give my best to your daughter.

Lien2

hoofsandhorns · Oct 22, 2004

Our hearts and prayers go out to your daughter and your family. Can't imagine how hard this must be for all of you. I have three daughters myself and three healthy grandaughters that they've given me. It's times like this you sit back and realize how lucky you really are.

We will continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
Rod

hornaddiction · Oct 22, 2004

Our prayers will be with your daughter.

Horn
www.trophiesonthewall.com

Smiley · Oct 22, 2004

My condolences go out to your daughter and your family . Hope things work out for all . Sounds like many prayers for your family .

antlerrick · Oct 24, 2004

Well, the inevitable finally happened last night. Now we can begin the grieving process and start to let time heal. Things went quick and after a lot of tears, I think we can all start to move on now.
It is nice to have an extended family here at MM, if only to have a place to let things out, and know that other people can really care about others that they don't really know on a personal basis.
We appreciate all the prayers and thoughts shared with us.

Rick

five_point_buck · Oct 24, 2004

Obviously there is nothing I can say that would come even close to make a difference other than best of luck to you and your daughter. Really puts everything in perspective...my family's prayers are with yours.

?America is a great country, the harder you work the luckier you get.?

five_point_buck
AKA Larry Pasero Jr.

Tuffbucker · Oct 24, 2004

Rick,

Im sorry to hear about your daughter's loss. I can relate somewhat to how you are feeling. My wife is now 6 months pregnant, and about a month ago they found a probelm with the baby. The doctor has prepared us for the worst, and we have been praying and hoping for the best. THe baby actually started to go into heart failure, but has miraculoously taken a turn for the better, but we aren't in the clear yet. Anything can happen between now and the 7 weeks the doctors are going to try and get to to bring the baby early.

To top it all off, 2 weeks after finding out the baby was having problems, my mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She was just released from the hospital after spending the last three weeks in for surgery to try and save her life.

Needless to say, these past months have been difficult, but I always try to remember that the Lord works in mysterious ways and that we must learn to accept His will before we will ever be able to understand it. Your family will be in my prayers and I pray that you will make it through this hard time you and your daughter are going through. May the Lord bless and guide you through these times. I begin to even fthom the pain and grief your daughter and family is going through, but I wish you and yours all the best in the future.

Scott--TUFF

antlerrick · Oct 24, 2004

LAST EDITED ON Oct-24-04 AT 11:25PM (MST)[p]Hey Tuff, I appreciate the kind words and believe that we have the worst behind us now. Time will heal so we are on our way.
Sorry to hear about your mother and the problems you wife is having with your baby. I wish to best to them. I will remember them in my prayers also. Is this your first baby?
We were lucky to get all 4 of our children due to my wife having the same problem that my daughter has, but we know that with a little faith, many prayers, and the marvel of modern medicine, that our daughter will have children sooner that they realize.
I'm sure you agree with me that even though you experienced a great and wonderful elk hunt this season, and harvested a nice bull, you would trade it for the health of your family members. I believe that will make a big difference in how things turn out for you. It is just the lord's way to keep our minds and priorities in the places it needs to be.
Keep me posted on your baby and may God bless you and your family in the coming months.
Rick

A bad day hunting is better than a Good Day at Work!!

cohntr6 · Oct 24, 2004

Rick,
if you dont mind me asking, was the loss of the baby related to any physical strain of the elk hunt or recoil of the rifle? I am asking because my wife is 4 1/2 months pregnant with our 1st boy (3rd child) and she has a hunt on saturday (30th). She isnt in the best physical shape so I have a couple private properties lined up for her to walk very short distances (less than 100 hundred yards) and on relatively level ground.
I will definatley have her wait till next year if her or the baby's health is at risk.
It is a terrible loss Im sure, my sincere thoughts go out to your family.
Jeff

antlerrick · Oct 25, 2004

Jeff, I sent you a PM.
Rick
A bad day hunting is better than a Good Day at Work!!

cmiddleton · Oct 25, 2004

LAST EDITED ON Oct-25-04 AT 07:34PM (MST)[p] I lost my first grand child too and its extreemly hard on the whole famaly but your doughter will have a hard time for years to come. she will love it as if its still here and will always even after new kids come be sad the time of year that it happend.
i'm not wishing you bad just telling you the signs that she will need more love and understanding.
we still keep flowers on sams grave and jody gets upset every july.
jody is 26 but i still feel she is my little girl.
Moseley is 18 and autumn is 15.
jody had a better time with her secound child but her third was born waighing 3 lbs. the baby did great but jody had a stroke and now has heart problems. they are both doing fine and brooke now is waighing 13 lbs and crawling.
when sam was lost jody got toximia and her body attacked the baby she went from i'm fine to having the preacher reading her her last rights in 4 hrs. they had us in her room 4 times to tell her by that night.
she lost all the platelets in her blood and any scratch she would have bled to death so even though the baby had died she had to give birth and they had to screen lots of blood for the platelets to make her stop bleeding it was any parents worst nightmare 4 times over.

Silentstalker · Oct 25, 2004

My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to each of you. I have never lost a child but my first two had major surgery before they were 1 year old and it is sure tough. We found comfort in the good Lord and in our extended family. I hope the best for each of you and know that time will help heal all wounds. Keep your chins up and like a friend once told me "make it a great day". Somedays it takes a lot of effort. Good luck to you all.

Chad

ElmerFudd · Oct 25, 2004

My heart goes out to her and family. For whatever it is worth, we lost three of my wife's five pregnancies. The two that worked out made everything well worthwhile, we have the best daughter and son anyone can ask for.