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moonlight
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Hey all,
I need a little advise, and figured that this would be a good place to start. Here is the situation. I have been hunting since I was first able to. I love it. I have been married for three years now. My wife knows I have a passion for chasing mule deer and elk and realizes that she is never going to change that. In fact, since we got married, she has even been putting in for tags with me. Well, we finally drew deer tags this year. She has been very excited about going, but there seems to be a problem. You see, she has never hunted anything. I have been helping her "study" her shot placement for the last few month's. We have been looking at all of my hunting magazines and I will ask her where she mould try and shoot this buck or that bull. If she chooses the wrong spot, I will correct her. We have been doing this, as well as shooting deer shaped targets. Everything seemed to be fine, until last night. We started going through the magazines last night and it was like we had never discussed any of this before. She was picking spots that were way off the mark. Then she started crying and said that now that she has had a baby ( our daughter is ten month's old), she doesn't think that she can kill something. I told her that I didn't care if she killed something. She said that she didn't want to talk about killing anything anymore and went to the bedroom and closed the door. I felt bad, but more confused than anything. It has always been her idea to put in for hunts. I have never forced her to hunt. I will admit that I was greatly looking forward to her joining me in something that makes me so happy, but I would never force her to do something that she was uncomfortable with. Later that night, she told me that she really was looking forward to going hunting, she just didn't know whether or not she would be able to pull the trigger when the time came. I told her that I understand and would think nothing less of her if she let the biggest buck in the woods walk away because she couldn't pull the trigger. I then told her that if she was going to goi into the woods with a gun and the intent to kill a deer, she needed to continue to look at different scenarios and shot placements. She said that she would rather just go and if the time came and she felt that she could do it, talk about placement then. I didn't want to push the issue anymore that night, but I had a problem with what she said. I want her to understand that as a hunter, we owe it to the animals to make a quick killing shot, and that that only comes with knowing where to place the bullet, but I feel like the more that I push this with her, the more I am pushing her away from going hunting at all. I don't want that to happen. So, what would you do in the same situation? Any help would be appreciated. P.S. sorry this is so long winded.
I need a little advise, and figured that this would be a good place to start. Here is the situation. I have been hunting since I was first able to. I love it. I have been married for three years now. My wife knows I have a passion for chasing mule deer and elk and realizes that she is never going to change that. In fact, since we got married, she has even been putting in for tags with me. Well, we finally drew deer tags this year. She has been very excited about going, but there seems to be a problem. You see, she has never hunted anything. I have been helping her "study" her shot placement for the last few month's. We have been looking at all of my hunting magazines and I will ask her where she mould try and shoot this buck or that bull. If she chooses the wrong spot, I will correct her. We have been doing this, as well as shooting deer shaped targets. Everything seemed to be fine, until last night. We started going through the magazines last night and it was like we had never discussed any of this before. She was picking spots that were way off the mark. Then she started crying and said that now that she has had a baby ( our daughter is ten month's old), she doesn't think that she can kill something. I told her that I didn't care if she killed something. She said that she didn't want to talk about killing anything anymore and went to the bedroom and closed the door. I felt bad, but more confused than anything. It has always been her idea to put in for hunts. I have never forced her to hunt. I will admit that I was greatly looking forward to her joining me in something that makes me so happy, but I would never force her to do something that she was uncomfortable with. Later that night, she told me that she really was looking forward to going hunting, she just didn't know whether or not she would be able to pull the trigger when the time came. I told her that I understand and would think nothing less of her if she let the biggest buck in the woods walk away because she couldn't pull the trigger. I then told her that if she was going to goi into the woods with a gun and the intent to kill a deer, she needed to continue to look at different scenarios and shot placements. She said that she would rather just go and if the time came and she felt that she could do it, talk about placement then. I didn't want to push the issue anymore that night, but I had a problem with what she said. I want her to understand that as a hunter, we owe it to the animals to make a quick killing shot, and that that only comes with knowing where to place the bullet, but I feel like the more that I push this with her, the more I am pushing her away from going hunting at all. I don't want that to happen. So, what would you do in the same situation? Any help would be appreciated. P.S. sorry this is so long winded.